A photograph of a man standing outside a barber shop
Mo Bro PaulImage by: Movember
A photograph of a man standing outside a barber shop
16 August 2023

Paul's story: Things will get better, you are never alone

2 minutes read time

It was the day England played Croatia in the World Cup. I went to the pub with my brother and his friends.

My brother was in the best form I have seen him in a long time. Some things hadn’t worked out for him recently, so I was glad to see him in a good mood, laughing, telling jokes, and having some beer with his friends.

At half-time, I left to go home.

Later that evening, I got a call about the most devastating news in my life.

After the game, they went back to his friend’s house. Normally, they’d order a Chinese and walk the dog together after the pub, but that day he didn’t want to go.

When his friend arrived back, he couldn’t find him anywhere. He knew something was not okay. He went around each room and then out to the back garden. That’s where he found him.

Maybe it was a spontaneous decision, a moment of utter despair. I often wonder what if he could’ve opened up and talked to us instead. Where would he be today? I’m sure everything would be okay by now. He would probably have a wife and children. We will never know.

This is the reason why Movember is so important to me.

I felt helpless at the time, so Movember was my way of doing something for him.

Before losing him, I never knew that there could be such a drive for individuals to get involved. I decided to put up a post every day during Movember.

I set my target of €1,000, but after six hours, it was exceeded and by the end, I raised over €16.5k.

This money will now go to echo a simple message: Things will get better, and you are never alone.

If you, or someone you know, is feeling low, don’t hesitate to reach out for support using these local support resources.

To speak with someone immediately, call The Samaritans on 116 123 or message the Shout text line on 85258.

If you’re ever worried that someone’s life is in immediate danger, call 999 or go directly to emergency services.

Starting conversations with men who are struggling may seem daunting. But getting them to open up can be easier with practice. Use our tool Movember Conversations for support.